The best way to keep your 10 year plan from being overwhelming is to break it down into manageable increments. Today, you will focus on your one year relationship goals. What do you need to do within this next year to be closer to your 10 year goal?
Remember the list you made on day three? Who is your foundation? During the first year of your 10 year plan, you’ll need to focus on your foundational relationships. Sure, you may already have a solid relationship with them, but what else can you do to enrich the relationship? Often times the way we communicate dictates a relationship and occasionally a lack of communication could lead to assumptions. Use this year to focus on the way you communicate with those in your foundational relationships. Could you check in with them more often? What about a different mode of communication? If you only speak with someone via Facebook Messenger, try calling them or face timing.
Don’t forget about effective communication. I recently started reading Steven Pinker’s The Sense of Style: The Thinking Person’s Guide to Writing in the 21st Century. He writes an entire chapter on “The Curse of Knowledge”. Communicating from a stand point of knowledge can be difficult if you make assumptions that your audience knows exactly what you know. It leads to break downs in communication and opens the door for misunderstandings. Keep that in mind when you are communicating with your foundational relationship folks. Sure, they may be a big part of your life, but don’t assume they keep tabs.
As you are making your one year plan for the foundational relationships, keep in mind those individuals you want to say goodbye. What would be a good exit plan? Now for some, it will be easy – just stop all communication. For others, you want to be mindful of those that will somehow stay connected to you, whether it’s someone who does business in your same circle or a friend that still speaks with other friends, have the foresight that this individual may come around from time to time. How you take a step back from the relationship could effect you down the road.
Don’t forget about those relationships you want to develop. It takes time. Relationships (business, romantic, or friendly) they all require trust and trust doesn’t happen overnight. Start making strides to show yourself as a trustworthy ally.
One more thing to think about: relationships aren’t solely with individuals. Keep in mind groups of people – former co-workers, circle of friends, family. Sure, you may keep up with people within these groups individually but don’t forget about the dynamic of the group as a whole. Could you make a bigger effort to hang out more often? Perhaps that is one of your goals.
Anything is possible! A relationship you thought was broken or lost can be saved. A relationship that doesn’t seem like it can get any better, can! It’s up to you to make the first step.
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