When I learned I was pregnant with our second child, I knew what to expect. Here was another little person to reinforce the lessons I learned from our first child. Boy, was I wrong! Loca #2 has a whole other set of lessons in store for me.
Lesson One: A little selfishness is okay
With Loca #1 I gave all of my focus to her, so by the time Loca #2 came around I needed to regroup. With all my focus on Loca #1 I had pushed The Boof aside. I even pushed myself aside. As a result, I was easily angered and often cried. (Okay, perhaps the hormones had something to do with the last one.) When Loca #2 was born she gave me a great gift – sleep. She took long naps during the day and woke up every two and a half hours at night. I obliged this wonderful gift and used the time to sleep as much as I could. I felt guilty at first. There were other things I should have been doing – cleaning, laundry. Then I realized it wouldn’t last long and if I was going to be fully present when she was awake, I needed to be fully awake. Taking time for myself has made me a better parent and it’s helped me stay balanced.
Lesson Two: Our bodies are amazing healers
Loca #2 is quite the adventurer and extremely curious. While I love that she has those qualities, it has come with some downfalls. Mainly, scraps, bruises, and falls. A couple of months after Loca #2 turned one, she took a bad tumble at the playground and split open her forehead. Seeing The Boof running towards our house with a bloody baby in hand was gut wrenching. I freaked out, I couldn’t help it. When we got to the ER, the nurse commented that she “looked like something out of a horror film.” With that reaction, I knew everything was going to be okay. It was the nurse’s way of using humor to calm us down. Ultimately, Loca #2 had to be glued (thankfully no stitches). She healed amazingly and I learned that as fragile as life can be at times, our bodies also have the great ability to heal.
Lesson Three: Everyone has their own time clock
With more than one child it can be hard not comparing them. Loca #2 is a fast learner. She started walking around nine months old. She began sleeping in a big girl bed just before her second birthday, and she’s already showing signs that she wants to be potty trained. She’s progressing at a much faster pace than her sister did. As much as I’m tempted to slow her down, I’ve realized that everyone has their own time clock and does things at their own pace.
Lesson Four: Proof that love is limitless
As silly as it may sound, when I was pregnant with Loca #2 I had a hard time believing that I could love another little person as much as I did Loca #1. Loca #1 was my baby. My everything. Did I have enough love to give another little girl? Once Loca #2 was born I instantly fell in love with her. There was plenty of love to go around. I realize how crazy I sound right now, but Loca #2 truly is proof that love is limitless.